I know it may be surprising but I actually love weddings. People who are old friends with me assume that I'm not a wedding sort of person because I'm so tomboy-ish but actually, I have always love weddings because I'm a sentimental sort of person. I have actually imagined and planned my own wedding in my head multiple times in my life just for fun because it just looks so beautiful.
I attended a distant relative wedding the other day. They followed the more chinese custom sort of wedding.
Personally, I am not a fan of the way weddings are done in my culture.
It's not because I dislike my culture.
But because I don't really value the same thing my culture does in weddings.
Personally, I wouldn't want to have a tea ceremony. According to the chinese culture, this is a way of the elders in your family to show their blessings and it's also a way that the bride and groom show respect to their elders.
I have no problem with respect. But for me, I believe that weddings should be about the couple. It should be a celebration of their union and to love in general. I understand it is in my culture to respect the elders but for me, I find it a little unnecessary.
Another thing I dislike is the fact that the groom and his best men are made to go through a certain amount of humiliation before the groom can see the bride. People have told me that it's in all good fun. But for me, I find it humiliating. If I was a groom, I would turn around and walk away. Because it's my wedding, why should I be subjected to humiliation? It should be my day. I should be treated as a king. I should be happy.
For me, this is where I prefer a church like wedding. To walk down the aisle. I don't know the thought of walking the aisle seem symbolic of choosing to be with that person.
And to make vows. Ah, this is my favourite part. To promise each other that you choose this person and to be together till death parts the two of you. To say words that you want to tell the person you love.
Then, a dance. I would love to have a dance with my future partner. I don't know. It just seem like a cool thing.
Those are three things that I must have in my future wedding.
Personally, I didn't like how the MC kept pestering the couple in the wedding recently. He kept telling them to have kids and blah blah. How annoying.
But I like that there was a live band in the wedding dinner which was a really nice touch. I would like something like this too.
I guess I prefer a more quiet intimate sort of wedding.